Don’t let your past define your future
It doesn't have to become your truth
Recognise the signs but don't attach to them
If you are displaying any of the following "signs" don't let it deflate you because these are simply behaviours. And behaviours are simply a reflection of a feeling.
You can gain control of your feelings. You really can. Rather than them controlling you.
And this means you can change your behaviour. Any of us can, if we choose to.
Make the choice. You are worth it. These signs are simply you crying out to be seen, heard, and loved:
* Low Self Worth
* Unhealthy Relationships
* Not expressing your emotions
* Striving for the impossible perfection
* Seeking attention
* Letting guilt rule decisions
Before I realised what was the cause, I did all of these things and more. But once I realised what I was doing then I knew I had the power to change those behaviours and beliefs. I wanted to because I didn't want to be a product of my adoptive parent's actions.
I was determined my past would not define your future.
If I can do it, so can you!
Blaming your parents lets them define your future
Don't get lost in blaming your parents either. They were doing the best they could, with what they knew and understood. No matter how crappy a job they did.
Blaming them will only keep you stuck in the vicious circle of their actions. That then means they have won. You are letting them control you and your life. Don't let them define your future.
That was a long time ago and you are now an adult. This means you are responsible for what you believe in and what actions you choose to take.