011: Self Love and Hugs – Shirley-Anne Joy

The Fearless Females Podcast Episode 011: Self Love and Hugs – Shirley-Anne Joy

The Fearless Females Podcast Episode 011: Self Love and Hugs – Shirley-Anne Joy

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In this episode:

In this episode of The Fearless Females Podcast your host Tegan Mathews interviews Shirley-Anne Joy who shares:

  • How she became the Love Warrior
  • The importance of self love to combat fear and judgment
  • Taking responsibility for your own happiness
  • Her Guiness World Record goal

Tegan’s Take Aways:

  1. Love yourself enough to care for yourself and provide what you need
  2. Get professional help to come out from the place of darkness
  3. All you need is within you – all the answers and all the love
  4. Live your life to the fullest to show others what’s possible
  5. Give and receive more hugs and if no one is around when you need one, give yourself a hug using the self hug technique

About Shirley-Anne Joy

Shirley-Anne Joy is The Love Warrior Hugging The World To Healing. Her mission is to bring us all home to love, to self-love in particular. Shirley-Anne is a way-show-er, paving the way to love for us all. Her own journey has been navigating the way through such deep sadness, grief, pain and loss and abuse of all kinds, to eventually cross that bridge to peace, joy and happiness and most importantly, to self-love.

The Self-Hug Technique video that she is gifting you, is the NEWEST self-help tool on the planet today. It was developed and created after asking the question: If the happiness hormones are activated in 20seconds when two people hug, will the same thing happen if I hug myself? And to her amazement and delight, the answer was YES!

Shirley-Anne is a passionate, dedicated healer, hugger, and lover of this planet.

Contact Shirley-Anne Joy




A Gift for Listeners From Shirley-Anne Joy:

A video on the self-hugging technique so that you can use it whenever you need a hug. It reduces stress, calms you down and brings you back to the place of love.

Gain Instant Access to The Self Hugging Technique


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Show Notes: Episode 011: Self Love and Hugs – Shirley-Anne Joy

Shirley-Anne Joy’s Fearless Story

  • why am I the love warrior
  • It’s been such a journey to love – the love warrior has evolved from the Happiness coach and then it evolved into the love warrior as I started looking at self love
  • And I am here to guide people and take you from un-self loving to self-love
  • One of my favourite things after my grandson Ziel is to hug
  • Guiding people to self love through the use of the self hug technique I have developed
  • If you hug someone for twenty seconds or longer it activates your happiness hormone
  • Over three years ago I thought I wonder if hugging yourself can do the same thing and was delighted to discover that it does
  • It took me 18 months to develop the technique and I have been teaching it for over a year now
  • People love it – it’s calming, soothing, de-stressing, allows you to connect to your heart and fully embody your soul
  • And you can gift it to yourself any time of the day when you need it
  • And you can get to a real place of tenderness and provide that love we all need for yourself – it’s quite extraordinary

Most Memorable Moment

  • In 2003 I got twelve months of travel insurance and went to Africa on a safari and then spent six months back packing around Europe
  • When I was on the safari truck going from Livingston in Zambia to Lilongwe
  • It was the first time in my life (I was 47yo) that I truly got to feel bliss and joy and freedom
  • It was leaving the stuff from my upbringing of being the eldest of eleven children, my marriage and all the responsibilities for everyone else and it was just me, this truck, adventure and freedom for thirty days

One of your AHA moments

  • I lived in my car for a whole month
  • Even though it gave me a sense of adventure and freedom that I felt I had lost
  • I realised I wasn’t willing to be responsible for myself
  • I wasn’t willing to make the commitment to sign a lease
  • I wasn’t willing to love myself enough to provide what I needed to care for myself
  • I was keeping myself engrossed in limitations

Where in your life have you been fearless?

  • I think we are all fearless
  • I got involved in a business that I thought was a good place to be in
  • When I decided to get out of it, unfortunately I had a bad time
  • It was a really difficult time for me
  • It was like I was battling the light and the dark
  • Yet every day I would get up and pretend everything was alright to those around me
  • I had some really difficult moments


How did you get through that?

  • I had some really great friends
  • I used to call on Mother Mary
  • Yet I always felt like they weren’t there, even though they were
  • It went on for two years
  • And then my mother got sick – thank you mum
  • And I chose to move back to the Hunter Valley and that was what I needed
  • Often when we are going through the dark times we don’t see those who are there to help us
  • I also think the answers always will come to you and you are always being looked after
  • Like when your mother got sick, although it is terrible, it was a way of the universe looking after you
  • And I went to a psychologist as well and he was very helpful
  • Not just in this matter but also the death of my baby brother when I was fifteen which sent me into deep depression
  • Even though I had done a lot of work on him while I was in Queensland five years ago
  • I forgot that he came into my life to show me what joy was
  • He was this amazing joyful baby and yet I climbed into sadness and attracted sad men and it was this really big thing to me
  • Yet here I am still smiling

How do you feel about the situations in your life now?

  • I came to the knowing that everything in my life til now had played a part in who I am today like you said
  • It makes me a better facilitator
  • It makes me a better guide to people
  • I am able to say, “Hey, this is where I’ve been and I can show you the way to joy and ease and happiness”
  • I live my life like that so that people know it’s possible because a lot of people don’t think it is but I’m living proof that it is

What are you passionate about today?

  • Besides the hugs where I have set up hug stations in and around my home town
  • I will hug anyone because I don’t have any judgment of myself or others so I can
  • Just living life and being in appreciation for this amazing planet we are living on
  • Other people in my life and my new grandson
  • And getting the self hug technique to as many people as I can
  • I really believe it is the most powerful tools I’ve ever used
  • Plus, bringing people home to love
  • I made a pact with myself years ago and I wrote down everything that I was holding onto and I made a pact that I would do whatever it took to work through that and let it go
  • Now I get to guide people back to love and love is home
  • The Dalai Lama says, “Love is the absence of judgment”
  • So we have to let go of our projections of judgment and all our stuff
  • And keep coming back to your heart space all the time
  • Because you can’t be in love and judgement at the same time and you can’t be in fear and love at the same time

What is something in your future plan that scares you?

Five Fast Fun Fearless Facts about Shirley-Anne Joy

  1. Who inspires you? My mother. She brought up eleven children and was both dad and mum to us as dad was always out working and now at 81y she has a 70yo boyfriend
  2. Favourite thing to do each day? Get up and go to the beach and watch the sun rise and sometimes sunsets too. It just opens my heart
  3. What’s something that still scares you? Me! If I have done all this so far, what’s possible for me in the next ten years
  4. Favourite technique or app or book? The self hug technique and Abraham Hicks – Ask and it is Given book. I think it is amazing
  1. If you could wave a magic wand and fix one thing in the world right now, what would it be and why? I would bring people back to love because the lack of love is what causes all the problems in the world

Final Question

If you could turn back time what’s the one piece of advice you wish you could give your fourteen-year-old self?

  • Love yourself
  • Be who you are
  • Stay true to who you are
  • Don’t listen to anyone else
  • Know that everything you need is within you
  • The good news is that the world is changing and I do not doubt that there will be peace
  • I have a mantra for peace and love [attachment]
  • Get out of the judgment and be the you you want to see in the world
  • Get out of the being around people who no longer serve you
  • Its all about you at the end of the day

Where can people reach out to you? www.shirleyannejoy.com

A Gift for Listeners From Shirley-Anne Joy:

A video on the self hugging technique so that you can use it whenever you need a hug. It reduces stress, calms you down and brings you back to the place of love.

Gain Instant Access to The Self Hugging Technique


  1. Margaret Boyd on August 22, 2016 at 7:09 pm

    This was brilliant Tegan and Shirley. I know that only too well what it is like not to know how to love yourself. It is only recently after seeing a psychologist that I realised I am a worthwhile human being. There is one very special person who unbeknown to her has helped me more than she knows. That is my pseudo daughter Tegan Mathews. I dontbweite this to watch n the prize as that would be unfair but to,let you know Tegan how much I love you and how proud I am of your achievements. Marg ” Mum” Boyd xxxx

    • Tegan Mathews on August 26, 2016 at 11:25 pm

      And there is no one but I who will ever know the joy that having you love me has brought into my life. I am so glad that you can now see what we have all known all along, and that is that you are very worthy of being loved and you are certainly a very worthwhile human being. I love you more than my words can express for taking me into your home and your heart and sticking by me through the thick and the thin. A mother doesn’t have a choice to love her daughter, she must, but you chose to love me and that means so much. xoxoxoxo

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